Signs you may be emotionally repressed
When we know we are having a feeling that we don’t want to feel, and we
consciously try to avoid it, we are repressing those feelings. Are you
emotionally repressed? Do you have feelings that you have pushed deep down
inside? This could be due to a childhood trauma or an unhealed issue or concern
within your life. Not knowing how to deal with these unpleasant feelings,
emotions and issues can cause us to become very overwhelmed at possibly even
depressed.
Here are 4 signs that you or someone you know could be repressing feelings in
hopes they will subside.1. You are always feeling FINE.
You have a habit of telling people you feel fine. When asked how you are
feeling you like to ensure others you are happy and feeling great even on those
days you do not feel great those days where you feel like everything is going
wrong.
This may be due to you not wanting to admit that your personal life
circumstances aren’t perfect or maybe you don’t feel comfortable confining in
others. Sometimes you may even make a joke or try to divert the conversation,
so you don’t have to answer the question of “how are you”.
2. Struggle keeping friendships and dealing with emotional intimacy.
You have problems keeping meaningful relationships whether they be
friendships or sexual relationships. You invent or cause issues or problems
within those relationships, for you find it hard to fully commit and connect to
others long term.
Once sexual relationships are introduced and you find you are starting to feel
an emotional connection with someone else, you start to feel overwhelmed and
scared for maybe now you are starting to feel like you’re losing control, like
your walls you build to protect your self are becoming smaller. because you are
letting yourself become vulnerable with someone you feel you need to jeopardise
or even terminate the relationship in order to protect yourself.
Friendships become a hard task having to always give so much of yourself to
others as you find it hard to play the role that you believe your friends need,
want, or expect you too.
3. Mood swings or sudden changes in behaviour
• Having extreme mood swings or breakdowns causes us to emotionally close off from others. We all in one way or another build walls around ourselves so we don’t get hurt by others but there are times whereby doing this too much it causes us to lash out and this overall becomes problematic not just to personal relationships but also to our mental and spiritual health.
• Sometimes It might just take something so small to set us off sending us into a spiral or fit of rage that could last for minutes or even hours. These mood swings or sudden changes in behaviour increases our anger and sadness levels making it harder for us to deal with every thought and emotion that comes into our mind during this time. It is during this time when rational people become irrational.
• Finding time to meditate and reflect on our day is important as this allows ourselves to be open, aware, and accepting of our moments—as well helping us to deal with any thoughts or emotions that come to mind calmly and rationally.
4. Hold onto grudges
Holding on to grudges causes us to become very vindictive, sad and for some
emotionally depressed.
This is another troubling sign that we could be repressing our feelings, that
we are not able to let go of the past. It’s important to forgive past wrongs
done to us by others. Not being able to forgive or even let go of these grudges
nonmatter how valid we think they are only showing that we personally are not
ready to face the hurt anger or shame of our past.
We will always find it hard to move forward if we are always looking backwards.
Excepting that those around us may not share the same beliefs, morals or
needs as us helps us to grow spiritually and become more understanding and
loving people.
WHAT HAPPENS IF WE DON’T FACE OUR REPRESSED EMOTIONS?
If we don’t face our repressed emotions, we will find it impossible to heal. Repressed feelings may trick us into believing that the repressed pain or issues are dealt with and gone, but in fact they only move from the conscious to the unconscious mind where it then gains more power over our behaviors.
Our egos know all the repressed emotions we hold and burry deep inside of
ourselves, and our ego will use these repressed feelings against us whenever it
wants too. Every time, we choose not to deal with our repressed emotions, we
allow our egos and un-conscious minds to project our hurts and fears into our
present lives and our futures.
SEEK SUPPORT
Support is there for us when we are emotionally repressed.
Repressed emotions are often connected to difficult experiences in the past,
so trying to navigate through it alone can become very overwhelming.
We all could benefit by seeking support, as it helps to create a safe and
understanding environment to access any unwanted or repressed emotions we may
have. Support also helps us to make new healthier decisions that will see us
moving forward in life with more happiness and understanding towards our needs
and inner emotions.
Australian mental help line 1300 375 330
Lifeline Australia 13 11 14
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